Reduce Conflict. Stay Grounded. Protect Your Future.

Separation doesn’t have to spiral — but without the right support, it often does.

Breaking the Cycles of Conflict in Separation

Who it’s for - all individuals, couples or co-parents who:

  • are contemplating or navigating separation, divorce or co-parenting

  • are concerned to protect their and any children’s wellbeing by avoiding conflict escalation

  • seek to create more stability for themselves and any children

  • seek to improve how they experience and respond to conflict and stress

  • seek a sense of clarity, calm, confidence and control

  • are ready to learn new skills for navigating conflict and separation stress more consciously

Start the self-paced  program Now - $97

Or 3 x payments $33

Register here for the next live intake starting 30 September or if you seek to rely upon participation in legal proceedings.

Are you a professional supporting individuals, couples or families through separation?

Explore the professional pathway here.

Clarity & Calm: Learn how to stay grounded and confidently navigate separation, even when it feels overwhelming and out of your control.

WHAT YOU WILL GAIN

Practical Tools: Build awareness and practical strategies to reduce escalation, avoid costly mistakes, and navigate conflict more constructively & consciously.

Thriving Future: Build a foundations for a more stable, secure and confident path forward that supports long-term emotional and financial wellbeing.

Option 1: Instant Access Self-paced Online Program with access to the full program online with a certificate of completion issued after completing all modules and knowledge-checks. The certificate may be suitable for use as evidence of program completion in some legal proceedings.

Option 2: Live online group program with 5 weeks of structured coaching support together with a formal certificate of attendance, engagement and completion upon attending all 5 live classes. The certificate may be suitable for use as evidence of program completion in some legal proceedings.

This program is designed to help you understand and interrupt patterns of conflict as you move through separation.

You’ll be guided through live masterclasses and ongoing where we explore:

  • how to improve your experience even where conflict is out of your control

  • how to stay grounded in the thick of separation chaos

  • how to make more grounded, conscious decisions to positively steer the direction of your separation

  • what drives post-separation conflict and how to generate positive shifts with awareness

  • common pitfalls that escalate conflict and how to avoid them

  • practical communication frameworks to prepare for and engage in discussions and negotiations

  • how to get clear and practical roadmaps for planning your next steps

  • how to navigate more complex dynamics, including neurodivergence, mental health challenges, or difficult personality traits

Alongside this, you’ll be supported with simple, practical tools you can apply immediately to improve how you navigate conflict, communication, and relational breakdowns, including: perspective shifts, reflection prompts, communication frameworks, regulation practices and coaching guides.

This foundational program is designed to support the development of communication and conflict resolution skills — by first building the awareness and internal stability needed to:

  • respond in a manner that reduces unnecessary escalation in separation;

  • navigate separation, communication breakdowns, and conflict more consciously, confidently and constructively; and

  • improve your separation experience on whole.

ABOUT THE PROGRAM

  • Separation Process Roadmap

  • 12 Important Steps to Consider in Pre & Early Separation Roadmap

  • Conversations with Children Roadmap

  • Getting Clear on Your Post-Separation Parenting Style

  • Kitchen Table Conversions Guide

  • Conscious Communication Tips

  • Planning Your Next Steps Guide

  • Breaking Cycles of Conflict Guide

INCLUDED RESOURCES

Important Note

This program is designed for individuals and couples with a functional level of physical and mental wellbeing. It does not replace legal advice, therapy, or professional mental health care.

If you are experiencing active violence, coercion, or significant mental health challenges, please seek appropriate professional support before or alongside engaging in this program (e.g. 000, 1800RESPECT, Lifeline 13 11 14).

Take your first step towards a peaceful parting today...

Start now for just $97….

Or 3 x $35 monthly

Get The Self-Paced program Today

If you’re not quite sure what you need yet, consider booking a First Steps Collaborative Pathways Session.

  • “I can now see the patterns that were driving conflict — and what I need to let go of. I’m no longer stuck in that defensive, ‘protect mode’, and I’m able to move forward with a clearer perspective.”

    — Darren, Bega NSW

  • "I found so much comfort in what Kara offers, especially with her experienced background. I learned that it only takes one person to calm the waters and create change."

    Stephanie, Counsellor

  • "Kara provided that missing piece: Understanding the bigger picture of break-ups. It helped me accept my situation better. I just wish I had done this program sooner!"

    — Frank, Brisbane, Qld

  • "This program showed me that separation doesn’t have to unfold in destructive ways — and that meaningful change can begin with one grounded, self-aware person."

    - Kerry, Teacher

  • “I walked away with a renewed sense of clarity and confidence, feeling far more equipped to navigate relationships moving forward.”

    — Mandy, Collaborative Financial Planner

  • "Despite being a counsellor myself, I found myself struggling navigating a high-conflict Family Court process. I found some much comfort and support in what Kara offers. Her combined legal background and trauma-informed approach provided a level of understanding and reassurance that I had not experienced elsewhere. Before undertaking the program, I approached matters from a highly defensive and combative mindset. Through engaging with the conscious and attachment-aware frameworks Kara teaches, I was able to regulate my emotional responses, shift my perspective, and engage more constructively in co-parenting dynamics. Situations that previously triggered strong reactions no longer hold the same power. Even in challenging circumstances, I am now able to respond with greater authenticity, emotional steadiness, and intention, which has contributed to reduced conflict and improved communication. Kara taught me that meaningful change often begins with one regulated and grounded participant. That insight alone has been transformative.."

    — Steph, Counsellor

  • “I recently discovered Kara’s Breaking the Cycles of Conflict program. I wish I had the benefit of this course 6 years ago when I first separated from my son’s mother. I think it would have a big difference and even now I can see the things we are both doing wrong and that there are things I need to let go off. I am now aware that I am still in protect mode and guarded and this is impacting our parenting relationship and my capacity to form new long-term romantic partners. I can now move forward with fresh perspective. Fighting and destroying each other's piece of mind and financial wellbeing hurts all involved, including any children, and is not going to change the outcome. It’s not about winning, but moving forward and learning.”

    Darren, Bega, NSW

  • "I recently completed Breaking the Cycles of Conflict, and it was truly transformative. Kara's approach blends deep psychological insights with practical tools, making it not just informative but life-changing. The way she explained complex concepts like attachment styles and emotional regulation made them easy to understand and apply in real life. Her unique perspective, combining her background in psychology and family law, gave the course incredible depth and relevance. I walked away with a renewed sense of clarity and empowerment, feeling better equipped to navigate relationships moving forward. Thank you, Kara, for such a powerful and enlightening experience!"

    — Mandy Newman, Collaborative Financial Planner

  • "Breaking the Cycles of Conflict demonstrates that separation does not have to unfold in the destructive ways we so often see. The integration of Conscious & Collaborative Uncoupling with attachment-informed and trauma-aware practice creates a framework that is both grounded in evidence and highly practical. The insights and skills taught in this program have the potential to significantly reduce trauma for individuals, children and extended families during separation. Kara has a rare ability to translate complex relational dynamics into clear, compassionate and applicable guidance. I highly recommend this training to professionals supporting families through separation."

    — Kerry Gardans, Teacher

  • “I recently had the opportunity participate in Kara's Breaking the Cycles of Conflict course. My own separation hasn't exactly been smooth and I have been navigating the Court system with respect parenting matters for over 2 years. Looking back, if I had known about this course Kara provides, on the emotional rollercoaster of breakups and its impact - not just on us, but especially on the kids - I truly believe things could be different today."

    Frank, Brisbane, QLD

The 5 Week Live Program - $275

  • Weekly Live Online Masterclasses with reflective practices + Q&A (Recorded)

  • Video & Audio replays

  • Written Program Guides, Coaching Guides and Practical Resources

  • Online platform for easy navigation of replays, tools and resources

  • Private community for ongoing separation support

  • Concession rate & payment plan available

Register your interest for

the next live intake  TODAY

Limited places per intake!

I have not separated yet, can I still do the program?

Absolutely, this program can serve as a powerful tool to prepare for separation.


Can I do this program alongside my former partner/other parent?

In many cases, yes. The self-paced online program is a completely private journey, anyone to start at any time. The live intakes of the program may not be suitable to engage together in the one intake where there is court proceedings or domestic violence, however both participants may complete separate intakes.

How much is the live program?

The live program is $275pp with concession rates and payment plans available in certain circumstances. Contact us to learn more.

How much time should I expect to commit each week?

The program runs over 5 weeks and is designed to be manageable alongside the stress of separation and ordinary life. Participants can expect:

  • One weekly live masterclass - 2hrs

  • Optional reflective practice and implementation time

All live sessions are recorded, so you can engage flexibly if you cannot attend in real time.


When Does the Program Commence?

The next intake is scheduled to commence 30 September 2026 with masterclasses to run at 6:30pm AEST on Wednesday evenings. Contact Us to register your interest.

Do you offer payment plans?

We offer a payment plan option for this program for those separating individuals and families’ in a time of financial duress.

What if I cannot attend the live sessions?

All live masterclasses are recorded and made available to participants.

However, attending live where possible is encouraged, as this is where practical discussion and practical integration occur.

Further attendance at the lives is required to receive a certificate of completion that may be utilised to support legal proceedings.

Is this program therapeutic in nature?

No.

This is an educational coaching program designed to support you in navigating separation more consciously and effectively. While some of the tools and practices may feel supportive or therapeutic, this program is not therapy.

You are encouraged to engage counselling or psychological support alongside this program if needed.

How many participants are accepted per intake?

Places are intentionally limited to around 15 participants to allow for a more supported and meaningful group experience.


I need help with all aspects of my separation, should I still do this course?

This program is included with all of our Online Coaching Program packages. These packages contain comprehensive education, step-by-step practical support and coaching guidance around the legal, practical and emotional aspects of separation including financial, property and parenting aspects.

Do you provide legal or professional advice/support.

No. I am no longer a practising lawyer, and I do not provide legal, financial, or therapeutic advice.

While I hold qualifications in law and psychological science as well as training in Collaborative Separation and trauma-informed practice, my role in this program is as a Collaborative Separation Facilitator, Educator and Coach.

Comprehensive education, step-by-step practical support and coaching guidance around the legal, practical and emotional aspects of separation is available through my Online Coaching Program packages.

Participants are encouraged to seek appropriate legal, financial, or therapeutic support alongside this program where needed.

If you would like guidance on when and how to engage these supports, you are welcome to book a First Steps Session.

Is this program appropriate for everyone?

This program is designed for individuals and couples with a functional level of physical and mental wellbeing.

It is a coaching and educational program that focuses on self-awareness and personal responsibility, and it may touch on topics that feel challenging or activating for some individuals.

If you have experienced domestic violence or significant mental health challenges, it is recommended that you engage appropriate therapeutic or 1:1 support alongside this program. If you think you may be in this situation, please consider booking a free next steps chat to get clear if this program is a right fit for you at this time.

If you are currently experiencing active violence, coercion, or significant mental health challenges, please seek professional support before engaging (e.g. 000, 1800RESPECT, Lifeline 13 11 14).

COMMON QUESTIONS

Meet Your Guide

Kara Ockendon (LLB, BAPsychsc)

Collaborative Separation Facilitator | Educator | Separation & Divorce Coach | Conscious Uncoupling™ Practitioner

Hi, I’m Kara, the founder of Thriving Divorce & Separation.

I’m a former family lawyer with over 15 years’ legal experience, now working Collaborative Family Law Facilitator, Educator and Coach. I combine legal insight with a trauma-informed, human approach to support people navigating one of the most challenging times in their lives.

Over the years, I’ve supported hundreds of individuals and families through separation and conflict. What I came to see, both professionally and personally, is that while legal processes can resolve things on paper, they often don’t address what’s really driving the conflict beneath the surface.

That’s where my work is different.

I now support individuals and families to navigate separation more consciously, helping you understand what’s happening emotionally, stay more grounded, and make clearer, more considered decisions as you move forward.

My approach draws on attachment theory, nervous system awareness, and practical real-world experience, but it’s always grounded in what is actually useful and applicable in your day-to-day life.

This work is also deeply personal to me.

I grew up in the context of a high-conflict divorce, have navigated my own separation, and now co-parent a neurodivergent child. I understand first-hand how complex, emotional, and overwhelming this process can feel.

And I also know that it can be done differently.

At the heart of my work is the belief that separation does not have to mean destruction. With the right support, awareness, and approach, families can move through this experience in a way that reduces harm and creates a more stable and supportive future.

You Can't Control Everything, but you Can Control Your Next Step

If this resonates with you, join the June Intake and begin navigating this stage with greater clarity, confidence, and care.

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