Training for Separation Professionals

AVOIDING POST SEPARATION CONFLICT FOR PROFESSIONALS

A 5-week online professional training integrating trauma-informed, attachment-aware and collaborative practice skills into real-world separation work.

Who it’s for - all professionals working with separating individuals & families:

  • Family lawyers

  • Mediators and FDR practitioners

  • Coaches and financial professionals

  • Collaborative professionals

  • Allied health professionals

Includes access to client-facing program delivery and live professional integration sessions.

Elevate your separation practice.

Register Your Interest Here!

Limited places per intake.

Most separation professionals are highly skilled in their technical discipline. However, few receive formal training in:

  • nervous system regulation in high-conflict clients

  • attachment and stress driven behaviours in separation

  • trauma responses and neurodivergence masquerading as “non-compliance”

  • managing escalation without becoming triangulated

  • understanding grief, identity collapse and relational rupture

Yet these dynamics sit at the centre of post-separation conflict.

When professionals can recognise and regulate these human systems in real time, outcomes shift. This training bridges the gap between legal/mediation frameworks and the lived emotional reality of separating families.

Why This Training Matters

Many separation professionals will have received some degree of learning in nervous system education and trauma-informed practice.

Avoiding Post-Separation Conflict for Professionals is different.

Rather than simply revisiting foundational concepts, this training dives deeply into evidence-informed separation stress behaviours and, importantly, how to recognise and consciously navigate them in real-world practice.

  • Direct access to the client-facing program as it is delivered in coaching mode

  • Insight into how clients process attachment rupture and relational trauma

  • Language and frameworks that de-escalate rather than inflame

  • Live professional integration sessions focused on practical application

You do not just learn concepts.

You experience how this work is delivered to separating individuals, observing the language, tone and psychoeducational framing in real time, before exploring how to integrate these approaches ethically and effectively into your own professional context and beyond.

This is applied, not abstract.

CPD points (self assessed) may be claimed per 1 hr of attendance (check with your professional body).

What Makes this Different

By the end of this program, participants will be equipped to:

  • Work more confidently and calmly with high-conflict and distressed clients

  • Reduce escalation, complaints, and stalled matters

  • Feel less emotionally drained and reactive in complex cases

  • Apply trauma-informed and attachment-aware practice in real time

  • Identify and address the underlying drivers at the centre of client conflict

  • Navigate separation dynamics with greater clarity, boundaries, and professionalism

  • Integrate conscious and collaborative separation principles and tools into practical client support

Ultimately, you will be equipped with knowledge, language and skills to improve your clients’ overall experience of separation and their long term outcomes, not just their legal outcomes.


Read on below for what others are saying after having completed Avoiding Post Separation Conflict.

Core Outcomes

  • "I recently completed Avoiding Post Separation Conflict, and it was truly transformative. Kara's approach blends deep psychological insights with practical tools, making it not just informative but life-changing. The way she explained complex concepts like attachment styles and emotional regulation made them easy to understand and apply in real life. Her unique perspective, combining her background in psychology and family law, gave the course incredible depth and relevance. I walked away with a renewed sense of clarity and empowerment, feeling better equipped to navigate relationships moving forward. Thank you, Kara, for such a powerful and enlightening experience!"

    — Mandy Newman, Collaborative Financial Planner

  • "Avoiding Post-Separation Conflict demonstrates that separation does not have to unfold in the destructive ways we so often see. The integration of Conscious & Collaborative Uncoupling with attachment-informed and trauma-aware practice creates a framework that is both grounded in evidence and highly practical. The insights and skills taught in this program have the potential to significantly reduce trauma for individuals, children and extended families during separation. Kara has a rare ability to translate complex relational dynamics into clear, compassionate and applicable guidance. I highly recommend this training to professionals supporting families through separation."

    — Kerry Gardans, Teacher

  • "Despite being a counsellor myself, I found myself struggling navigating a high-conflict Family Court process. I found some much comfort and support in what Kara offers. Her combined legal background and trauma-informed approach provided a level of understanding and reassurance that I had not experienced elsewhere. Before undertaking the program, I approached matters from a highly defensive and combative mindset. Through engaging with the conscious and attachment-aware frameworks Kara teaches, I was able to regulate my emotional responses, shift my perspective, and engage more constructively in co-parenting dynamics. Situations that previously triggered strong reactions no longer hold the same power. Even in challenging circumstances, I am now able to respond with greater authenticity, emotional steadiness, and intention, which has contributed to reduced conflict and improved communication. Kara taught me that meaningful change often begins with one regulated and grounded participant. That insight alone has been transformative.."

    — Steph, Counsellor

Your5 Week Professional Intergration Program

Investment:

$597 per practitioner

$2,497 per practice (up to 5 participants)

Register Your Interest

Limited places per intake!

  • Full access to the client-facing program Avoiding Post Separation Conflict including on demand masterclasses, coaching guides, and additional readings and resources.

  • Weekly Live Online Masterclasses real-case application, reflective practice + Q&A (Recorded)

  • Ongoing peer and practice support

Your Training Support Guide

Kara Ockendon (LLB, BAPsychsc)

Collaborative Family Law Facilitator | Conscious Uncoupling™ Practitioner | Relationship Breakdown & Divorce Coach


Kara Ockendon, founder of Thriving Divorce & Separation, is a separation and divorce pathway specialist, former family lawyer, and educator working at the intersection of legal literacy, emotional wellbeing, and trauma-informed practice.

With qualifications in Law and Psychological Science, and 15 years in litigious legal practice primarily in family law, Kara has supported hundreds of individuals and families through separation and complex conflict. This experience reinforced her belief that while legal processes resolve matters on paper, they often fail to address the human systems driving long-term outcomes.

As a Certified Conscious Uncoupling™ Coach and Collaborative Family Law Facilitator, Kara now supports individuals, families, and professionals to navigate separation processes more consciously and collaboratively. Her work integrates attachment theory, nervous system education, and practical legal insight to reduce escalation and support sustainable outcomes.

Her approach is further informed by lived experience, including growing up in the context of high-conflict divorce, navigating her own separation, and co-parenting a neurodivergent child. These experiences underpin her commitment to supporting grounded compassion and grace in separation.

These experiences underpin her Thriving Divorce ethos that Separation does not have to mean Separate and Divorce does not have to mean Destruction. With the right supports, families can evolve and thrive through separation and beyond.

Through the development and delivery of multiple live and online programs for individuals and professionals alike, she brings clarity, structure, emotional intelligence, and grounded real-world insight - alongside a calm, human presence that gently guides nuance into the complex.

How much time should I expect to commit each week?

The program runs over 5 weeks and is designed to be manageable alongside professional practice. Participants can expect:

  • Approximately 90 minutes per week of on-demand content

  • One weekly live integration session - 60-90 minutes

  • Optional reflective practice and implementation time - 60 minutes

All live sessions are recorded, so you can engage flexibly if you cannot attend in real time.


When is the next intake?

The next intake is anticipated for July 2026.

Exact dates will be confirmed shortly. Registering your interest ensures you receive early access details and priority enrolment before places open publicly.

Is this suitable if I have already completed mediation or collaborative training?

Yes.

Many participants will already have training in trauma-informed practice, mediation, or collaborative frameworks.

This program is designed to deepen and integrate that knowledge into real-time application with separating clients. It focuses on recognising and responding to attachment rupture, nervous system dysregulation, grief dynamics, and escalation patterns as they arise in practice.

It is applied, not introductory.

What if I cannot attend the live sessions?

All live integration sessions are recorded and made available to participants.

However, attending live where possible is encouraged, as this is where practical discussion and real-case integration occur.

Is this program therapeutic in nature?

No.

This is a professional training designed to support practitioners in working more effectively with separation dynamics. It is educational and skills-based, not therapeutic treatment.

Who is this program especially helpful for?

This training is particularly valuable if you:

  • Regularly work with high-conflict or emotionally escalated clients navigating separation

  • Feel drained or reactive after certain matters

  • Want to prevent escalation rather than manage it

  • Are seeking to deepen your trauma-informed and attachment-aware practice

  • Are interested in collaborative or conscious separation frameworks

How many participants are accepted per intake?

Places are intentionally limited 15 participants per intake to support meaningful integration and discussion.

Early registration is recommended.


Will CPD points be available?

Participants may self-assess CPD points for hours attended, subject to the requirements of their relevant professional body.

You are encouraged to confirm eligibility with your professional association.

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